As You Look Down…..

Wednesday, June 12th, 2013 1:00 PM Posted by Kyle Duwel

As the sun breaks the clouds and darkness fades away,
Memories are not forgotten, but we go on day-to- day.
We strive to become something that tells your story,
Of everyday struggles, but still remembering your glory.

As you look down, smile upon us,
As you look down, awaken our sight,
As you look down, provide some relief
As you look down, have we done by you right?

Looking forward, your tree begins to flower,
Reminding all, that God holds the power,
To take away and to begin a new
Forever altering our point of view.

As you look down, smile upon us,
As you look down, awaken our sight,
As you look down, provide some relief
As you look down, have we done by you right?

Every sunny day provides us a clue,
But a thunder bolt causes a pause too.
Reading the wind, soaking in the rain,
Is this to soothe or to understand your pain?

As you look down, smile upon is,
As you look down, awaken our sight,
As you look down, provide some relief,
As you look down, have we done by you right.

…as you look down, have we done by you right?

~ kyle duwel

Houston, No Problems At All!

Wednesday, May 16th, 2012 3:45 PM Posted by Kyle Duwel

This past March, the Brian Hafer Foundation had the privilege of hosting its first annual Brian Hafer Memorial Golf Outing in Houston at the Woodforest Golf Club. It was a wild “wind-blown” success. Even in windy conditions, birdies were still able to be located and low scores were shot. The course was difficult, but fair and we had a great time.

The Foundation was incredibly excited to come to Houston, Brian’s childhood home and hold its first outing among friends and family. Bill was able to reconnect with several old friends and neighbors that he had not seen in 20 years!. In true Bill fashion, friendships were instantly rekindled and he thanks everyone who came out that day. Brian’s best friends, Michael Greathouse and Josh Arnaud, did a wonderful job hosting, planning, and executing the golf outing. We cannot thank Mike and Josh enough for stepping up and running our first foray into Houston.

As with our Dayton event, the First Tee was a prime beneficiary of the event. The Foundation was able to sponsor a First Tee National School program at Wilkerson Elementary School in Conroe, Ohio. Again, as with Dayton, we hope to fund all Conroe elementary schools in the next few years. This is the school district that Brian, Josh, and Mike grew up and attended school. The Foundation was also able to help Arms of Hope, an organization that assists disadvantaged youth in need of help.

Thank you again to all of our friends in Houston and newly made friends! The Foundation had a blast and cannot wait until next year. Be on the lookout for information regarding the 2013 outing. But as the sun gets a little warmer in Ohio, the Brian Hafer Foundation once again turns our focus to our Dayton outing…….

~ kyle duwel

Footprints…

Friday, July 8th, 2011 9:48 AM Posted by Todd Duwel

A difference is realized by a decision rendered upon a problem encountered for

which a consequence is foreseeable. Act. Don’t react. Do something. Get your toes

wet, and leave your footprints as guideposts for the next inquisitive soul.

~ todd duwel

Lullabies...

Friday, May 27th, 2011 11:00 AM Posted by Todd Duwel

Against the rocks, as moments’ fleet, and the tide begins to rise, Trouble nears, you feel it too, I can see it in your eyes; Swept away, adrift again, how much more can you withstand? Relentless waves, unforgiving shores, will strip the soul of any man.

Lullabies aren’t just for children when the darkness comes to call; Close your eyes, as the shadow creeps, I’ll catch you if you fall; Rest easy my friend, as I still the night, until the day begins to break; Sweet comfort, settle down upon, I can give more than you can take.

Stared down by the sun, uncertain, as it waits for you to stir, Throwing rays upon its sandy beach, burning toxins so impure; Sweat forms above your brow, travels down your cheek, even as you lay, Like a tear from heaven, carried by angels’ wings, softly as they sway.

Lullabies aren’t just for children when the darkness comes to call; Close your eyes, as the shadow creeps, I’ll catch you if you fall; Rest easy my friend, as I still the night, until the day begins to break; Sweet comfort, settle down upon, I can give more than you can take.

Stand now, right yourself, brush the pebbles from your hair; Look at me, looking at you, and see what I can see.

Lullabies aren’t just for children when the darkness comes to call; Close your eyes, as the shadow creeps, I’ll catch you if you fall; Rest easy my friend, as I still the night, until the day begins to break; Sweet comfort, settle down upon, I can give more than you can take.

Reflections are best captured when the stormy sea comes to rest, Fear not to steal a glimpse, when the quiet conquers the crest; In that moment you will find, the beauty of the still, And see you looking back at you, and the promises to be fulfilled.

Lullabies aren’t just for children when the darkness comes to call; Close your eyes, as the shadow creeps, I’ll catch you if you fall; Rest easy my friend, as I still the night, until the day begins to break; Sweet comfort, settle down upon, I can give more than you can take.

Sweet comfort, settle down upon, I can give more than you can take.

~ todd duwel

Meditation...

Friday, May 27th, 2011 11:15 AM Posted by Bill Hafer

Let spirit soar on wings of silence

While the mind sleeps in peaceful alliance

The way is clear through unborn thought

A sacred moment with no-thing sought.

~ bill hafer

The beginning...

Thursday, March 10th, 2011 6:57 AM Posted by Kyle Duwel

Shortly after Brian passed away, my cousin Shawn came up to me and said, “Kyle, you enjoy putting on golf scrambles, how about we organize one in Brian’s memory.” I thought that was an outstanding idea and agreed only if Shawn would help. Keep in mind, I organized golf scrambles for groups of 20 people or so. I thought we could add a few groups to that kind of scramble, charge a little more, and maybe be able to donate some money to Brian’s daughter’s college fund. Well, 29 foursomes later, 116 total golfers, the Brian Hafer Foundation was started. Trust me when I say, this was not expected. How it got that big, this quick is still puzzling. Shawn and I shared this idea with Bill, Brian’s father one November day at Tank’s. It quickly began to take shape in front of our eyes. While the three of us organized the golf outing it would never have happened without the love and support of our entire family. Aunts, uncles, cousins all shared a role in planning the First Annual Brian Memorial Golf Outing held at Jamaica Run Golf Course.

We also want to thank all of the golfers who took part in the initial outing and the sponsors who selflessly donated money and prizes for our raffles and auctions. Through your generosity, our little idea has become a charity. In September of 2010, we created Brian Hafer Foundation, an Ohio non-profit corporation which will soon be a registered 501(c)(3) organization!

We are very excited to move forward with our Foundation. Our mission is to support and promote drug awareness programs to help individuals receive the proper care that they need as they battle their own private addictions. Please keep coming back to this blog as others will inspire and share their experiences as we all begin this journey. And remember, through compassion, a better tomorrow awaits.

~ kyle duwel

The launch assures that we've finished beginning...

Thursday, May 4th, 2011 10:39 AM Posted by Todd Duwel

A few days ago, the Brian Hafer Foundation launched its new website. To many, such an event merits no particular attention, as domain names these days are as numerous as the rain drops we’ve all endured this spring. But to us, the website depicts much more than an electronic address; its domain much more than its simple namesake. The launch assures that we’ve finished beginning, and have begun to finish Brian’s mission.

Brian was aware of the beauty of tomorrow; it was his unsteady companion through his darkest evenings. Brian knew the value of friendship, and often sought its nourishing counsel. Brian recognized the importance of good intention; often chasing the amorphous muse. And, Brian felt tremendous compassion for those similarly afflicted, and from those whose footprints matched his pace. These principles serve as the Foundation’s guideposts, as we endeavor to honor Brian’s memory.

~ todd duwel

When I dream of Michelangelo…

Wednesday, May 18th, 2011 6:57 AM Posted by Todd Duwel

Too often, personal desire and ambition careens us blindly down our chosen path, pushing us towards a mythical finish line, like a skier clipping the gates on the way down the slope. Like the skier, we miss the innate beauty of the slope, and those that assisted us along the way … always striving for something just beyond our grasp.

Within a recently discovered rendition of the Counting Crows song, When I Dream of Michelangelo, lead singer Adam Duritz recounts how his reach for perfection often caused him to ignore the “humanity” that surrounded him. Such awareness taught him to reach for people and not perfection, as only the former is ever attainable.

Because the Foundation, and thus, Brian, has been such a focus, I quickly drew a parallel to Brian’s struggles, and my peripheral, fleeting awareness of the same, as I blistered down the hill, racing past Brian’s footprints. I always assumed I’d meet Brian at the bottom. I think many of us did.

Like Duritz, I endeavor to learn that inner pursuits are hollow when unaccompanied. I yearn to slow my mad dash to the fading horizon, and enjoy the surrounding “humanity;” to share the footprints of others; and to touch and feel sentiment.

~ todd duwel